I do not know where our desire to judge people comes from. It could well come from our desire to control, as covered in the previous part. Control requires judging people. It may also just be a fun activity.
Either way, judgment is everywhere and we do it all the time. Is that a good thing? Given that I’m dedicating a whole part of this book to it, you can probably guess my answer.
In “No More Judgment” we’re going to look at the cost of judgment when we use it in every day communication.
In “No More Performance Ratings” we’re going to look at a context where judgment happens that we’ve all likely experienced: performance reviews. While I will not argue that performance reviews are all bad (although I may be able to), I will argue that the judgmental aspect it: the rating, is not doing us much good.
Then, in “No More Judgmental Feedback” we take a closer look at feedback and its origins. We will analyze why it’s so hard for us to take negative feedback and propose an alternative approach.
Finally, in “No More Arm Chairing” we look at one particularly common type of judgment: judgment from a distance.